Who’s your daddy?
Today is Father’s Day: a day in which we should be celebrating our fathers or men who stood in as our fathers, but instead men get the short end of the stick. Even though I am not a father, as a man I notice when dads are getting singled out. Fathers are kind of like sound men at a concert or church, they are only noticed when they do something wrong. Men are noticed when they are deadbeats and don't step up to provide for a family they had a hand in creating. Men are noticed when they are workaholics- never being there for their kids like mothers are. Men are noticed for everything but the right things. Hardly anyone notices when a man provides for a child without a father, for all the hard hours he put in to give his child that Christmas present or a few dollars for college, teaching his child to hit a baseball after working all day, chasing a deadbeat away from his daughter, or teaching his son not to be a deadbeat. The fact that I refer to many men as deadbeats just shows what has been drilled into the minds of many good men: they aren't good enough.
Fathers get a bad rap and when they show up to church on Father’s day they get reprimanded for any shortcomings they might have. It becomes pick on fathers day rather than honoring them; this is a day to remember all the good things they do not to put them under the microscope. Do we do that for Mother’s day? NO WAY! We honor mothers and we should be honoring fathers, too. Fathers need to be built up rather than torn down. They need to empowered like anyone else. They need the opportunity to grow.
Since we are honoring fathers, Father’s day is a perfect day to remember all the images that the Bible gives us of God as the Father figure. I could go on and on about God being our Heavenly Father or God the Father as a person of the Godhead, but I want to simply point to how good God is as the ultimate Father to us. Jesus tells us that if human fathers can understand the needs of their children, that God as our father understands our needs all the more.
I have an amazing dad who drives me insane but has worked hard to give me a wonderful life. He is an example of how husbands are to give themselves up as Jesus did for The Church. He has helped, stood behind, and enabled my mom to become a pastor and a chaplain. Many men are too insecure to support their wife that way. He is now working on becoming classes for becoming a pastor himself. He is always learning and progressing. He wants to see me succeed in everything I do. He is a big reason I am able to write blogs for Empty Church (even if he doesn't totally get it).
Thank you to all the great dads out there. Thank you God for being our perfect father. And thank you to all those who act as fathers for the fatherless.
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